I have just listened to a wonderful interview with Marie Miyashiro on NVC and the power - and necessity - of interdependence. At times I have seen NVC teeter on an individualistic track as we pay deep attention to ourselves, our needs and feelings and finding the grounding to go for that and ask for what we need.
The truth, and the depth, is that NVC is built around an understanding of who we are - together. For me it is also much bigger and broader than that, as my spirituality is grounded in who we are together also. Marie herself has come to a similar place of spirituality that our relationship with all things with a life force is the centrality of our existence. How we move deeper into that connection and relationship with all of life is our very purpose.
There is such deep spirituality, authenticity and groundedness in this belief, and this knowing. Being in relationship with life around us is everything. Our children are often taught through their education systems to go hard for what will make their future bright - education, money, drive, ambition etc. And while these things are also important and precious, they are not the whole picture. Can we have a bright future alone, Marie asks? Because even if you are on your own, you are still part of a community and surrounded by community. What we do and who we are impacts other people, at the very least.
I wonder if the work of NVC is really awakening people to what it is to be in relationship, and equipping people to be a "we".
For example, "what matters to you matters to me because it matters to you". That sounds like a joke but it is deeply real. I care about what you want because you care about it. That is part of being in relationship…and part of being human.
Who are you in your "we"s? In your family? Relationship? Friendships? Workplace? Church? Community group? What are the things that matter to you most about that "we"? What is your shared reality about who you are together, why you exist together and where you want to go together? That shared reality of your "we" is what holds you and nurtures you and keeps you going.
If you want to delve more into this click on the link above and follow Marie's amazing work. I will be!