I read a beautiful reminder recently from The Attached Family that set me back in motion after moving a little off base with Mr 4 pushing some particular buttons of mine :).
You see, he can argue ANYTHING. He is a brilliant problem solver and his persistence knows no bounds. Whilst I am sure these are fabulous qualities that will serve him well one day, right now, much of the time, I just wish he'd do what I ask!! Fortunately I read this article and was pleased to take the reminder that it is a gift that my young ones have the space, the gift, the freedom, the self confidence to say NO. Of course, sometimes, things are not for negotiation. But, I am pleased they say no to me now, because as the article says, I want them to be able to say no when they need to make tough decisions relating to peer pressure, bullying, relationships, employment....all of the above and more for the rest of their lives.